How can we make our spouse happy?

Men and women tend to see success differently. Men usually define themselves by their job. Sometimes they become so wrapped up in their job that they forget that it isn't all that they are. A man is also a husband, father, friend, as well as things like outdoorsman, runner, basketball player or whatever.

Being a good father doesn't mean just providing money. A good father is there in the evening to play with his children, maybe give them a bath and tuck them in to bed. A good father is at the little league game, dance recital, school play, etc. A good father maintains a strong relationship with his childrens mother. A good father enjoys doing some things that he enjoys to relieve stress and be happy. Sooooooo much more than just providing money.

Women need to understand that this is how their man is thinking and instead of attacking them for it, appreciate that they have a guy who's responsible and is trying to take care of his family. There are a lot of deadbeats out there who sit on their butts all day and don't take care of their family at all. Women need to be patient and help him be a presence in his childrens lives.

Between the two of you, you need to work out a situation that works for both of you. Find balance in your lives and your relationship. Better to live in a smaller house, drive a 5-10 year old car, etc than to miss out on your childrens childhood, or end up divorced because you lost your connection with your wife.

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